What do you do with guilt … when you know you’ve blown it and you don’t measure up? Ummm … I’m asking for a friend of course.
I guess we could try to shift the blame … onto a spouse, a child, parents, our childhood … even the in-laws and out-laws. But that doesn’t really alleviate guilt, it just spreads it around.
Perhaps we could redefine the moral code … “God couldn’t mean THAT?!” “Or It must mean THIS.” But that’s a temporary guilt-fix at best, and another load-of-guilt at worst.
Denial is a nice illusion to keep us comfortable and feeling good about ourselves for a little while … but sooner or later you come back to the mirror and face the reality that you really can’t live up to your own standards, much less the standards that God has set.
My favorite coping-with-guilt-mechanism is try harder. Give more, serve more, pray more … focus on all that you are doing right so that you are too busy to see all the places you fall short. But honestly, that’s exhausting … ummm so I’ve heard.
Fortunately God knew that we couldn’t live up to His standard of perfection of purity. He knows everything you know? He can see through our feeble attempts to mask our guilt and He graciously stands with open arms and a loving heart to show us a better way. There is a place where our guilty consciences are cleansed.